IN HER SHOES: Steve Harvey’s Tearful Interview…

Hey rea­ders…  Wow! So much to say so little time… Well as you can see we as a TEAM havent been pos­ting very much in the past 9 days and we are sorry for those that have visi­ted and have just been brow­sing through old topics and sto­ries and we really, really apre­ciate it. Well the sim­ple update would go as follows… Much going on, obs­tac­les, dis­trac­tions, ten­sion, all sorts of up-hill batt­les, but one thing for sure is that — THIS IS ONLY THE BEGINING & NOTHING WILL MAKE US GIVE UP! Ok with that said we will recon­vene with upda­ted post on Mon­day…  Till then I leave you all with a inter­view Don­nie McC­lur­klin had with Steve Har­vey on TBN recently that truly touched my heart so deeply that it gave me the grace to write this post.  I feel alot like the way Steve expres­ses he feels… I can cry a river and no one would know and often ask myself the same ques­tions he does & even wish the same things he does… Pls watch this beau­ti­ful sin­cere and tear­ful tesi­mony as we take back a moment and THANK GOD FOR ALWAYS BEING THERE WHEN NO ONE IS! Thank you Hea­venly Father… THANK YOU!

In Her Shoes: Who’s Your Mentor?

By: Pianca Pink.

Heyyyy, Shai­det­tes… Wow, so many things have been  moving very fast in my brain aaaand kinda/sorta slow in rea­lity. As a busi­ness woman, I need to be able to make the right choi­ces and deci­sions; if not, then it will cost me every time I make a move. There are also times that there are deci­sions that I will make that would not con­tri­bute to the imme­diate fis­cal bud­get, but its long term divi­dends are worth more than any bottom-line figu­res. Truth of that mat­ter is I need gui­dance, advice, help! I need it mostly because its never just one deci­sion that I to make, its various and some­ti­mes all at once. While I tend to always be calm, cool and collec­tive under pres­sure, that also makes sound jud­ge­ment calls under the fire, I pre­fer to just one per­son I can go to and say “Hey, what do you think I should do?”  And then actually see the ins­truc­tion use­ful and better.

Soooooo, I deci­ded I would go on a search for the busi­ness men­tor, that I need. One, that will have her spi­ri­tual out­looks based on her faith and life. My mom is the abso­lute best and is a great faith-keeper and I also have a great sup­port sys­tem, an awe­some team and a great circle of friends that I root for me everyday. All of which I am extre­mely grat­ful for, but the rea­lity is that I’m everyone’s men­tor and no one’s mentee.

That is all going to change, now… I’m going to start off with a cou­ple of refe­ren­ces that will con­nect me with someone that would help me find that per­son and as I do so, I will be taking you on this jour­ney with me as I find one that going to be not only a voice, but a sta­ple in my life.

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Talking, Dating, Seeing Each Other, or in a Relationship?!

By: Pianca Pink.

Well, this is the first of my per­so­nal “In her shoes” posts… So, I will do my best to keep you all in step with my life’s crazy pers­pec­ti­ves & clas­sic moments of being a esta­blished pro­fes­sio­nal & sin­gle mother in the “nowhere like it” city of NY! So, let’s take a walk!

The sub­ject of defi­ning sta­tus quo’s within friends of the oppo­site sex came up after having to cut ties with one of my favo­rite late night con­ver­sa­tions as in just tal­king it up, with one of the homies. I knew this day would come, but was hoping that he would take my clearly, basic English tips and use them as tac­ti­cal gems, but unfor­tu­na­tely he did not!

First, off let me explain that I am nowhere near ready for a rela­tionship and nor do I want to see someone seriously. I just want to enjoy the com­pany of a man without expec­ta­tions, lots of fun and laughs, but with boun­da­ries and when I say boun­da­ries; I mean an inti­mate limit towards what is the sta­tus quo of the friendship. I have them, because I don’t want to lead on towards a com­plete con­tra­dic­tory posi­tion than the one I first pre­dis­po­sed, nor do I want my guard to come down before its time. Last thing, I need is to fall and acci­den­tally fall on the truck of an elephant, if you know what I mean! Lol. Other than that, I’m open to mee­ting new peo­ple, having great con­ver­sa­tions, going on din­ners or events and just ove­rall having a good time. When I decide to turn my “Engine” back on, it will be to have it run miles for its defi­ni­tive jour­ney and with a very high-quality dri­ver! ; )  Till then, a nice bike ride or a long walk in the park, with a cold sho­wer after or maybe even some cos­mic vibra­tions will do just fine, for now.

Ok, back to the homie in ques­tion… He had lots to offer and pro­vi­ded a hell of a con­ver­sa­tion for me on a regu­lar basis, but unfor­tu­na­tely got caught up about whether we were tal­king, dating, seeing each other or in a rela­tionship. I really didn’t unders­tand why, I explai­ned it to him all the time, never held his hand, never kis­sed him, nor did I ever tell him I even liked him that man­ner! I was disap­poin­ted at the fact that his ego kept get­ting in the way of truth and refu­sed to see me as just his friend. I am a very busy pro­fes­sio­nal and a mother, the last thing I need is a deman­ding “homie”, acting like he “got this”! The nerve…

Les­son lear­ned and now I without a doubt am clear that ever­yone defi­nes these inter-relational terms dif­fe­rently and I need not to judge them and next time, will do bet­ter in hand­ling it. He’s a man… I get it; I was just hoping that he wasn’t your typi­cal man I sup­pose. I don’t know, I am wrong, am I lea­ding on even with sim­ple con­ver­sa­tions and offe­ring good times and some great laughs? How can we date and keep a steady pace without having sex in the car while on the “test drive”? Can a pretty girl, ever just have “just a friend”? It’s hard, espe­cially if you have taken a liking to that par­ti­cu­lar homie, but one must stay on course… Nothing worse than losing a good friend on a night of pas­sion that one can’t take back. Wai­ting for the right time in a city where everything moves as 150 miles an hour, may seem in ina­de­quate at first, but the walk of shame is even more ina­de­quate the day after. I don’t know? I guess what ever works, right?

How men define “tal­king, dating, seeing eachother, or in a rela­tionship… in 2009 (in NYC, at least)

Tal­king = Friend’s with Benefits

Dating = Friend’s with bene­fits and din­ner & a movie

Seeing Each Others = She’s the Shorty (Only know the close homies)

In a rela­tionship = She’s my girl (Know’s moms & pops and loo­king to wife her)

You girls uli­ti­ma­tely decide with which one you want to be… As for me you already know! : )

I leave you with a short clip from “When Harry met Sally” ~ one of my favo­rite movies. Clas­sic!

P.S. Harry even­tually con­que­red Sally, but it took a long time… Look here!

P.S.S — If any of the homies, ever give me this speech… I’m his for ever! Engine on, let’s go… lol